Trap or not?

How do women separate one from the other? How do men distinguish between the two? 

I believe women more often than not cannot clearly distinguish between the two. We tend to take the physical intimacy we share with a guy as a emotional intimacy of some sort. And more rarely than not, that is not the case. I just wish I understood how men make the difference, so that I could implement it in practice. In this type of situations, men are more practical. Sleeping with someone and being affectionate on the physical level does not necessarily make the guy fall in love with the girl. Ironically though, this is exactly the way to a girl’s heart… so how are we supposed to know when to let people slip inside our heart and when to be on alert?

Is the answer to this question the eternal divergence between logic and heart? Men use logic much more than women, and just to keep things in some sort of a universal balance, women use their hearts much more than men? Hence, we come across as the less practical ones, as the most sensitive creatures on earth and ultimately the most complicated to understand.

The hormonal changes women experience each month, and throughout certain periods of their  lives (pregnancy, menopauze, medication), do indeed play a significant role in the way we view things. 

Regardless of that, physical intimacy is really not hard to recognize. E.g., girl and guy sleep together, girl and guy kiss, girl and guy look at each other in the eye “during”, girl remembers guy’s name, and viceversa, girl/guy knows how to reach the other (phone, email, etc). But how is one (particularly girls, and specifically, myself) supposed to recognize emotional intimacy? The real thing…. and not what men actually intend as purely physical one? When I say emotional intimacy I do not mean love. I only mean that the guy (or the girl, respectively) feels something more than a pure physical attraction or platonic friendship. In my mind (and of course, I could be wrong) there’s an intermediate stage between physical intimacy and love. And that’s the emotional phase I am wondering… in which one starts caring about the other person, starts thinking of the other person in other ways than just physical (e.g. longing for the other’s presence, smile or for his arms around her, sleeping with the other, waking up with the other). I believe love is a natural evolution of this emotional intimacy stage. 

The first stage (physical) one is usually mutual. The next stage, emotional, may or may not be mutual. If it is, then the following stage, loving, is usually accelerated and can turn into mutual love. Otherwise, love will come, but it may or may not be mutual. 

These stages did not always come in this order. Fifty years ago I am sure the physical stage was the last one, the first and second one being the emotional and loving, respectively. This can still happen. It depends though on the circumstances and priorities of the woman and the man. 

Going through one of the stages, does not mean one has to (or will) go through all the stages.

I still don’t know whether the latest changes and expressions of intimacy that I am seeing in my G. spot are more than just physical intimacy. My heart wishes it was more. My logic tells me it’s nothing more than just that. Sleeping with someone and loving someone are two entirely different things. And the difference should be clear. Then why do I feel blinded now? Am I in denial? I wish I could see things for what they really are, clearly and beyond any doubt.